How do you get those perfect family photo poses when this is you’re reality leading up to it: You’re racing to get everyone dressed. Someone lost a shoe. Your toddler’s insisting on bringing their snack cup. And by the time you pull into the photo session, everyone is either annoyed, tired, or threatening a full-blown meltdown. Sound familiar?

If this sounds all too relatable, let me just give you a big virtual hug ❤️ Because yes, I’ve been there. And no, that doesn’t mean your photo session is doomed. In fact, that’s exactly the kind of chaos I love working with.

I hear from so many of my sweet mom clients (hi, Megan!) that they’re worried their family will feel or look “awkward” on camera. So let’s talk about it. Because honestly? Most families feel unsure at the start. But that’s where the real magic begins.

The “Awkward” Myth (and Why I’m Not Buying It)

The truth is, it’s not usually about being awkward. It’s about being human.

Every mom shows up hoping her family can just have one (ONE!) photo session where nobody throws a tantrum or pulls at their sweater collar in every frame. I get it. But here’s the thing: your family doesn’t need to be picture-perfect. They just need to be themselves.

I often tell my mamas, right before we start: “There are no rules here. You don’t need to say no. You don’t need to fix every fuss. We’re here to PLAY.”

Yep, we bribe with gummies. We tickle. We chase. We spin around like flying airplanes. Our goal? To turn the chaos of real life into the chaos of fun 💃🏼

I once photographed a family with three little ones under 6 (whew!). The parents arrived already apologizing. The middle child didn’t want to be touched. The youngest was clutching her lovey for dear life. And I said, “You know what? That right there – the lovey, the moods, all of it – this matters. Let’s not hide it. Let’s celebrate it.”

And we did. We got soft, cuddly moments. We got a full-belly giggle as Dad flew his daughter through the air. We got a photo of Mom wiping a tear, catching her breath as she genuinely smiled.

THOSE are the kinds of moments you’ll frame forever.

Posing Tips for Real Families (Not Models)

Okay, now let’s get into the nitty-gritty. If you’re a little worried about how to “pose” for your photos, let me tell you a secret: I don’t actually want you to pose.

Instead, here’s what I recommend for those perfect family photo poses…

1. Think Comfort, Not Perfection

Get comfy! You don’t need to suck in, stand stiffly, or worry about your toddler’s mismatched shoes. If you’re holding your child, hug them tight. If they’re climbing you like a tree, let them! Those tender, spontaneous configurations always photograph beautifully.

2. Interact, Don’t Just Smile

People think that the perfect family photo poses are the ones that are staring at the camera with a forced grin. But they’re not. Instead, connect with your people.

• Whisper a joke
• Tuck hair behind your daughter’s ear
• Give a big ole group hug
• Let someone be silly!

When you focus on each other instead of the camera, the whole session begins to feel like a shared adventure instead of a “photo op.” — and perfect family photo poses just disappears into thin air.

3. Embrace the Snack Cup 📸✨

Seriously. If your child needs their favorite stuffed animal, their snack cup, or their tiny plastic dinosaur… let them bring it.

It’s not a distraction – it’s a season of life. Don’t worry, I’ll work it in so that it feels meaningful, not messy. Years from now, you’ll see that picture and remember exactly how much they loved that stuffed bunny. That’s the gold.

4. Make It a Grown-Up Playdate

Loosen up the expectations. This isn’t a school picture day – it’s a brief window where you and your people get to just be together. Laugh, play, toss the kids in the air, twirl like it’s prom – whatever makes you feel connected and happy.

Your smiles aren’t fake when your joy is real 💛

5. Let Go of the Timeline Stress

If someone needs a break, we let it happen. If we need a moment to regroup, I’m happy to pause. I never want a session to feel rushed or stiff. Trust me – the more we lean into the real, the more magic we make.

Real Photos Come from Real Moments

Here’s what I know to be true: You’re not supposed to be “perfect” in front of the camera. You’re supposed to be you. Unfiltered. Emotional. Messy. Joyful.

The photos you’ll treasure aren’t the ones where everyone’s lined up stiffly with fake smiles. They’re the ones that look like your real life… just frozen in the best possible light.

So if you’re coming into your session feeling nervous or awkward – it’s okay. I’ve got the snacks. I’ve got the tricks. I’ve got the patience and love for your kiddos (and for you, too!).

Your only job is to show up and love on each other. I’ll handle the rest 🫶

Ready for Photos That Feel Like You?

If you’re dreaming of timeless family photos that feel as real as your love, I’d be honored to tell your story.

Whether you’re Utah-based or find yourself soaking up the sunshine in Southern California, I’m here to help you create a photo session that’s joyful, relaxed, and full of meaning.

Take a peek at my current session offerings on Instagram or slide into my inbox if you’re ready to book!

Can’t wait to turn your chaos into ✨ joy ✨.

With love and snacks always,
Brooke 🤍